Sunday, March 14, 2010

Juggling my stressballs

I thought about writing this post as part of my recaps, but, truth? I don't want to think about these "dark days" again after the wedding, so it's now or never!


When I first started blogging for the 'Bee, I got a few comments from engaged and married ladies trying to balance wedding planning with law school (or who had already done it), asking me how I was juggling them. The truth is, I am a very bad juggler, and one ball or the other is just about always getting dropped (I'll give you one guess as to which one!).

Those of you who are in/have been through law school can attest to how stressful it can get right around the middle of the term and onward (and I'm sure most graduate students have a similar experience). Throw an imminent wedding into the mix, and I'm finding myself dissolving into tears over not being able to find my parking permit in the morning before my 1.5-hour commute to school (which became two hours because I hit more traffic after the lost time crying in the carport and trying to calm myself back down after I found it). I've got myself so worked up over inconsequentials that I actually need to add another thing to my to-do list: scheduling a massage to work out the debilitating knot I've developed in my left shoulder!

I am trying to delegate as much as possible—Mr. Spaniel has taken over handling the DJ fiasco (an update: we've found another DJ—thank goodness!—and have been promised a refund for the old one, which I am sorry to say I will believe when I see it) and scheduling transportation (etc.), but I can't delegate studying for exams or packing for the honeymoon. I can't delegate working out or remembering to feed myself (oh, and I totally understand now why so many brides accidentally lose weight before their weddings... I have NO TIME TO EAT!). I am thinking that it might have been smart to pick a date that wasn't in the middle of the semester. :)

Anyone face more stress than they expected leading up to the wedding? How did you handle it? Would you have done anything differently in hindsight?


  1. Oh I understand! I work 40 hours a week, am a full time doctoral student AND am planning a wedding with a mother 2+ hours away and a MOH on the other side of the continent (your neck of the woods). I'm still 2 months out and I've already had the tears flow, multiple times!
    Good luck lady you'll get it all done and it will be perfect!

  2. Oh man I feel you here, I'm working on my last year of my Doctorate and although I took my boards early and finished my comps all before the stress of planning the wedding- I'm now updating my resume and searching for a job whilst planning! It's hard to juggle all those stressors.


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