One month before (by February 20)

• Put RSVPs into guestlist database and phone invitees who haven't yet responded
  I've been adding respondents as we go along, and am ready with a list of people for my parents to nag after the RSVPs are due!
• Get marriage license
  Done! It was somewhat anticlimactic.
• Mail rehearsal dinner invitations
  They are mailed, and they are awesome.
• Have final dress fitting
  My second dress fitting is scheduled for next week.
• Stock the bar
  Our venue provides the bar.
• Send out as many final payments as you can
  I guess this would be smart.
• Assign seating
  
• Purchase bridesmaids' gifts to hand out at the rehearsal dinner
  I ended up selling the imitation pashminas and buying real cashmere ones from The Pashmina Store when I couldn't find the right brooches (and other miscellaneous items) that I wanted to add to their gifts. I am spending a little more this way, but I like the gift a lot better!
• Write vows, if necessary
  We're not writing our own vows, but we did write our ceremony. It's been handed off to our officiant already.
• Get hair cut and colored, if desired
  I'm getting my last trim before the wedding tomorrow!