I'm hoping he'll be open to customizing our ceremony a lot. There are some customs we would love to include, but D would not be willing to have me "consecrated" to him "according to the Law of Moses and Israel." (I don't think I would want that, either!) And if notif he requires us to promise to raise our children Jewish (I can't make that promise before they are even conceived... I feel differently everyday), or if he insists that D make the ritual declarationswe'll have to find someone else to do the ceremony. That's all.