Also, I decided to let D take care of that champagne toast thing. We both have a very clear memory of the woman who showed us around telling us that the toast was included, and because I was becoming overwhelmed with planning (even planning for a planner is planning, isn't it?), D was sweet enough to take this off of my plate.
I feel better already. Sometimes you don't realize how much work planning your own wedding is until you let someone else do some of it for you. But it's pretty hard to let go!