I've hit a road block. Wedding planning is easy when you're trying to decide cake flavors or floral varieties (the things that feel important but that, ultimately, are not very), but it's hard when you're fighting your family. The details are kind of personal, but the problem is probably somewhat universal: we're out of space on the guest list, and that's making some family members pretty angry. When someone as close as a grandmother (or, more precisely, the only living grandparent either of us has) threatens not to attend the wedding over it,* it makes you rethink some things (and also makes lining envelopes feel pretty irrelevant).
I've struggled with writing this post because it does touch on some really personal issues, but I know that many of us have hit road blocks just like this... and in the happy happy world of wedding planning, sometimes some of us can benefit from knowing that we're not alone when the people we love can't meet our expectations, that there are others sailing in the same boat. At least, I know I could benefit from it. :)
I'm pretty lucky because it's not affecting the most important thing: Mr. Spaniel completely supports me in not allowing myself to get walked on or bullied, and even if some key people decide that it's more important to stand up for my third cousins twice removed than for me, I'm still marrying the love of my life and will have the opportunity to create a healthier family than the one I grew up in. I am also lucky because I'll be able to get back on track with the wedding part of the planning... just as soon as I get over the shock.
*Yes, this really happened. I am debating just inviting eleven extra people to keep the peace and letting the chips (or fire code violations and budget overages) fall where they may, or standing my ground because I think that was a really, really low blow and I'm sure she'll attend anyway (and if she won't? that's a lot of poison for one family event and maybe it'd be better if she didn't).