On the [day] of the week, the [day] of the month of [month] in the year [year], in the presence of family and friends in [city, state], [bride's name] daughter of [father] and [mother], and [groom's name] son of [father] and [mother], affirmed their union of marriage and made these vows to each other:
As beloveds and friends, we choose to walk life's path together. We will appreciate our differences as a source of richness and build a life together as equal partners and supportive companions. We will be slow to anger and quick to forgive. We will celebrate life's splendors together; we will brace each other through its storms. May our love provide us with the freedom to be ourselves and the courage to follow both our mutual and our individual directions.
We promise to honor our ancestors, families, and all living beings; treasure, enjoy, and continue the traditions we have inherited; create a home filled with love and peace, freedom and compassion. We will shelter each other; our home will be a place of openness and generosity. With our community of friends and family as witnesses, we now combine our separate fates into one.
Mr. Spaniel's response? "That's actually pretty nice. I really like what it says about openness." I showed him the Embracing Trees design from Ketubah.com, and he really liked that, too (he's a hippie).
In any event, I'm feeling less attached now than I was to having a rabbi perform the ceremony. If we have a ketubah (more as a keepsake of the event than anything else), and he breaks a glass at the end, and maybe we can do a wine blessing in the middle somewhere (because it would be more interesting than a completely secular, ritual-free wedding), I think I'm happy enough. I go through phases.